Dating after years of being married can be confusing and just a lot of work. In the past year of dating I have noted that some men need validation but are truly not ready for a committed relationship so dating online is a way to get that validation without something serious. Here is a list of 10 signs that the man you are talking to is just emotionally, financially, or just plan unavailable.
“He will always be incapable of having a genuine emotional connection with anyone, himself being first on the list.”
Natasha Adamo
- If he is married or separated, he is not available
- If he just got out of a relationship, he is not available
- If he has uncontrolled depression, he is not available
- If he is too busy and makes no time, he is not available
- If he has not started reaching toward his goals, careers, or financially security, he is not available.
- If he takes forever to answer your text messages, he is not available
- If he doesn’t try to progress beyond text, he is not available
- If the relationship does not continue to grow, he is not available.
- If he has too much drama in his life, he is not available.
- If he doesn’t have or rent his own home, car, and job, he is not available
DONT IGNORE
RED FLAGS!!
The above are red flags you want to watch out for. Start talking to men to get to know them. Do not day dream of what the future will hold. Pay attention to these red flags. Divorced women tend to treat their boyfriends as a husband. He has not earned this right. If we treat them as husbands we tend to ignore these red flags. Dating is to get the know the person and see if they have your non-negotiables, fit in with you and your children, and will help you grow as a person. Your future spouse is not here to complete you but to complement you.
“Emotional unavailability is only attractive to people who are emotionally unavailable themselves. When we are ready for love, we don’t tolerate people who aren’t ready to meet us there.”
Mark Groves
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